What's annoying me today

The way parents allow their kids to rule their lives is annoying me. They're not cute little darlings that everybody wants to listen to and indulge. They're children who need to learn how to behave in restaurants/shops/supermarkets/remembrance services/ every fucking where. Please, stop basing your entire lives around the idea that if the children are happy and doing what they want, then everything in the world is fine. You're raising a generation of self-entitled, self-obsessed and over-indulged kids.

Also annoying me is that I sometimes fall into 'things were better in our day' mode. But some of those things actually were. Honest. Maybe I should read the Daily Mail now.

DPD managed to deliver 15 boxes of ours to the hairdressers in the precinct and legged it. I have just had to fetch them.

The Mrs works in a school as the inclusion officer or something like that. Gentle Parenting means allowing your kid to be a cunt with no consequence. The amount of times that teachers are getting hit is nuts. The amount of time lost to teachers having to be out of the class room because little darling is being a twat is off the charts. The darling gets the attention and the rest don't get the teacher they should have. Tax private education, fund teaching and make parents accountable for their kids actions

That last bit is never going to happen. Society has moved on now, we live in an age of selfish cuntitude.

My daughter teaches in a primary school with a pretty middle class catchment. She says much the same thing and was bitten on the fanny by a five year old recently. She says at least half of these kids have some sort of special needs, but there's no money to fund an assessment and no places in special schools. Several of them have been excluded temporarily, not that that is any help in the long term. And the parents aren't interested in any discussion that doesn't cast their kids in a good light. The consensus in the staff room is that some of this is to do with lack of socialisation during Covid, bearing in mind that this cohort would have been about 2 at the time of the lockdowns.

Yeah, I think COVID has been massive in this, plus the concurrent explosion in self-diagnosis of mental health/ASD/ADHD etc etc. (Source: wife is a teacher and my brother's kids are a mess).

I do also feel some old fashioned parenting would also have helped lessen the impact though.

Kids can make a lot of noise when you tell them off, this can have a very negative effect on your ability to watch Emmerdale Farm, it's best not to bother and instead pack them off to bed with a tablet so they can watch some spoilt American brat open presents, I'm sure they will shake out ok in the end.

With high sugary content weets and shit. That'll keep um happy.

It seems to me (as a non parent, so, expert) that the self diagnosis thing has been rampant at least since ex Mrs. Seán's youngest was at primary in the late 00's. Give it a label, and bingo, carte blanche for little Chloe and Keanu to be ubercunts, responsibility absolved.

There certainly is neuro diversity in our family (diagnosed) and some suspected. But yes, it does seem aspirational. Our kids have managed to not be uber cunts in large parts. Eldest boy got excluded once for making a school parody Instagram account. Got him huge respect at school as it was genuinely funny though perhaps a little too far. He also got hauled up for decking a kid twice but said kid had been bullying him for some time as he's very quiet (Diagnosed). He got threatened with exclusion for that until the Mrs pointed out that the school had done fuck all about the bullying so I was fine with him deploying playground rules.
Youngest boy CBA. But he will do enough to get by.

See also, "I'm depressed because of a chemical imbalance in my brain". Ok, really - which chemicals are unbalanced?

It's a fine tightrope between being uncharitable, excepting everyone is different and conditions effecting behaviour. I have no idea so I shall stick to lazy parent jokes.

I don’t know how much of a thing over-diagnosis and self-diagnoses are, and how much certain conditions are used as a cover for kids just being shits.. but I do know that it’s not long at all since kids who did struggle with ADHD or being autistic in a world that is very hostile to them, were functionally abused by teachers, parents, and a society that just wanted them to be ‘normal’, and that was really shit. We’re still in the early days of understanding mental illness and different neurotypes, and a long way from knowing what should change to make things more inclusive.. let alone actually making those changes.. I figure we’ll learn more from ‘indulging’ people than we would from another 50 years of oppressing them.

When I cried as a baby my mum used to push the pram to the end of the garden and leave me. I turned out alright. Might write a letter to the Daily Mail about my experiences as I feel they may help parents of today.

There are undoubtedly kids with additional needs such as autism and you can generally tell.

There are many more little shits who have had no parenting whose parents says they have ADHD. And use that as an excuse for their poor behaviour. Fuck. Off.

And then there are those desperate for their kids to be labelled with something to unlock the extra benefits. They can fuck right off.

Am I the only one that laughed at ‘bitten on the fanny’?

I mean, I bet she didn’t laugh, but it was a wonderful turn of phrase.