14, autistic, hence the first time abroad. He is fine until dealing with little kids or babies, that causes meltdowns. He just doesn't understand the noises they make or why babies cry. Your post does not fill me with confidence.
If we sit on a plane next to a baby, I may get off..
There’s usually quieter pools/areas at resorts. I’m a fan of those myself.
TIL that I am autistic.
Do keep up.
Did you catch it in your late 40s as well?
I caught it in my late 20s when RC Jr MKI arrived…
Get in the hole
Is this more on the Russell Brand story?
People who work on for or any slight connection to the railways. Cunts thelorrethem.
You need to speak to Smeds.
It's the French.
Probably.
People putting up Halloween decorations... plastic crap all over their lawns
As Tricky would say it’s a people problem. I have a lot of high stress, angry, A+ type, sometimes insecure people. Some of them are prone to lash out if they are not having a good day. Chances are it has nothing to me but I still really really have a problem with this behaviour. I am not a phony so I am very clear this is not okay. Usually at a time when there are no other colleagues or clients about. It’s getting worse.
I have a client who for many years was a sweet heart but he now beset with health problems (auto-immune issues), which I have sympathy for but now he has been having tantrums. He is retired and a young 60. Well recently he has been blowing up for things I would consider minor or even non issues because his excuse is “I’m a nice guy and people think I won’t mind if I am inconvenienced or slighted”.
The first incident was when I asked if he would be open to swapping an appointment time with her another one of my clients as she needed to pick up her kids. I also said that it was fine if it was an issue as I would find her another trainer if he couldn’t do it.” He agreed only to turn on me in the gym in a rage Sayiing, “that I put him on the spot and he didn’t appreciate it”.
I replied that he had the option of saying no, (he know that I know he has a lot of free time but that is not whilst I asked). He was hostile the rest of the workout. I told him that I wouldn’t ask him again (even though this is part of my job to accommodate as many people as I can. I ask everyone if there is a scheduling challenge).
Cut to a few weeks later. The scheduling system went down and I had to reboot the computer and had to take care of it otherwise it would have been awkward to keep things up to date. I told him, “sorry but I have to take care of his, I won’t be too long”. He got very angry and felt like I was taking advantage of his good nature. (Do
You see where this is going?).
Yesterday, the third righteous tantrum. I am booked solid in half an hour segments usually for hours on end. The client before was a new bloke and he needed to familiarize himself with 7 new machines. It took a little longer than 30 minutes. I made it very clear that I might be a running a few minutes late as I had a new client. A thing I afford with all new clients if it is needed.
Well I apologized to said angry bloke and said that I would get him out in time and thanking him for his patience. He waited until he got into the training room to lunch into a volley of abuse in front of other clients and other trainers. His argument once again was “everything thinks they can take advantage of me because I am good guy!”. He didn’t stop there and was screaming about “nobody cuts into my time”. Technically he is hiring my time but I digress, when I had already told him that he would get his full time. He wouldn’t stop. If another trainer was available I would have passed him on to them but there wasn’t so I took him through the routine quietly and focused. (In other words I was in a rage but professional enough to know my job is always on the line).
Near the end of the workout he tried to shake my hand. I looked at him like he was an alien. Then he started screaming, “I know! I know!”. I ignored him and finished the workout.
The last person I indulged for having a bad day, (albeit a while ago), had a breakdown months later and tried to punch me. It had that vibe, and I moved on to my next client whilst he left.
He is still on my schedule next week. (He may cancel but might not). I pride myself on solving problems and having good working relationships with the people who pay me. Unfortunately I think this won’t get better. Although I could reach out and ask him if he is alright I am of the inclination of just firing him as a client. The problem is, I make friends with a lot of these people so it really bothers me that they feel it is okay to lose their shit with me. Usually for things that really have nothing to do with me. Yes I can be a sarcastic shit at time. Sometimes grumpy but certainly not abusive.
Hiding behind an excuse that “people take advantage of me being nice”, is weak. I also know he is not doing well recently but I believe that doesn’t excuse this behaviour.
It would be easier to dump him. He would still no doubt work with someone else, so why do I feel that this wouldn’t be the best move for everyone involved. I am extremely busy so this wouldn’t really effect my pocket book but still….
It’s an conundrum.
Chicago: Conflicted.
Now the fcuker has apologized to me and wishes to continue working with me. I essentially told him over the weekend to sod off and he won’t go…
I can’t seem to get rid myself of anybody..
Chicago: Burdened.
Make it work for you, say your fees have doubled.
Railway cunts once again.
2333 says on time at 2330.
Then at 2333 says due 2334
At 2334 says due 2335
2335 says due 2336
2336 says due 2337
2337 (and this one will surprise you) says due 0034.
Now that is just someone taking the piss isn't it.
People using fog lights when it's raining. The clue is in the name: fog lights. I can see you perfectly well when you have your normal lights on; I don't need the extra glare of your fog lights.
