My Plex media server is running on Ubuntu 24.04, which has shiny new desktop sharing and remote login capabilities. I'd like to use this capability so that I can remote into it from my new place and download shows etc for my wife to watch. I can't even get it to connect on my home network, much less figure out how to access it over the internet, and a couple of hours of googling has returned my no helpful results.
I've tried using TightVNC on my Windows PC and it seems like it might connect but it doesn't actually give me a viewer screen (I only think it's connecting because when I disable the Desktop Sharing feature on Ubuntu I get a pop up on the Windows machine telling me that the connection was gracefully closed), and I can't get the native Windows Remote Desktop Connection service to connect at all.
I'm sure I'm missing something simple here, can anyone give me any guidance please?