Movies

Gran Turismo is predictable and preposterous and riddled with cliches and about 40 minutes too long, but the racing scenes - and there are a lot - are really well done.

Had the weekend alone. Wifey ruined my birthday then fucked off to Arizona. It might end up in the Big Life things thread if she continues this behaviour.

Anyway on the bright side i got to watch a couple of films. After someone mentioned, "The Thin Red Line", on here I gave it a gander and loved it. It was like the HBO series, "The Pacific":, but good. I thought it was really well done and conveyed the hopelessness of war way better than most.

Then before i got too depressed i watched the new Predator film , "Killer of Killers". Yes it was animated but I really really enjoyed it for all the nihilistic mayhem.

Good stuff.

Nice to be able to sit and eat Thai food and not have to argue about our viewing pleasure.

Chicago: Action Jackson.

Being quietly plainly voyeuristic and being reasonably familiar with the stories of your wife and her pecadillos, what almighty sin can have been so far out of your experience to have fucked up your birthday?

Well since you asked. I work on average 14/15 hour days. I make good money but work really fucking hard. I always try and have my birthday off and had arranged to have my clients work with someone else or another day. Four days before my birthday day off, (this had been planned for two months), she decided that since her assistant was moving to Arizona that she was going to use that day to interview and try out new people. I told her, "what the fuck, you knew i was having this day off", she replied that she needed a new person and besides "Tuesday's are her day", and that it had already been arranged. So at the last minute I had to move my day off to Monday which was not on the agenda and trying to move 25/26 people at short notice is not easy at the best of times especially when three other trainers were out of town. I said, "if I have to get up really early and work all day and night on my birthday I am going to be really upset"... She said that it couldn't be helped. I didn't believe it for a second. Of course, as soon as I open up my schedule everyone piled in and I worked form early until 9pm at night. So I had to get up before 5 and come home late. Understandably I was quite cross. The best part of it was I didn't get anything for my birthday from her and found out that she had been taking friends out to dinner using my credit card. She has her own. We were pretty leveraged this month with me paying for the contractors laying concrete in the back garden and buying an outdoor infra red sauna. So to find out that one of my cards had ballooned to 10K on top of that sent me over the edge.

We went out on the Saturday but of course I paid for it. She has two jobs, but where is the money? And if she has a problem, why didn't she talk to me about it? Also she hassles me on my day off to do garden and house work and then proceeds to do less. Anyway, I told her that she needs to take accountability for all this behaviour and said that she couldn't use my credit card anymore.

She then has been out of town on a supposed job in Sedona Arizona for one of her jobs (this is one where she works for others) and found out her best friend flew in from North Carolina to join her. She then posted pictures of them hiking in the mountains in very hot temperatures for five hours. I thought she was meant to be working on a time senstive project that required all her time? This is a woman who doesn't like to fly but has not problem just jetting off and doing things at the last moment and objects to me wanting to take holidays which might require the odd reasonably long flight. For her 50th, i bought her an Apple Macbook and took her to a Swiss wellness clinic for an extra 15K. Something I had to work really hard for to pay it back before the interest was due.

I am fucked off. I am working hard to death and find her behaviour really selfish. I have to take care of the newly planted garden. inject the diabetic cat with insulin at certain times of the day and keep thinks together whilst working 14 hour days and have her object to me wanting to do things I would like to do whilst she galavants around on what I think are jobs. Where's the fucking money?

You could argue that it's menopause. She just turned 50, but you may recount her insanity during the height of covid and her sabotaging our marriage because she blamed me for trying to get her vaccinated and then basically acting out to strain our marriage to the breaking point.

When it's good it's great but when it's bad I am dealing with an emotionally regressed adult who couldn't be bothered to get therapy because she didn't want to deal with her really admittedly shitty and awful childhood. Instead, it's easier to blame me for how she feels and then do what she wants and expect me to pick up the pieces and keep everything together. I let he have it when i had to change everything at the last second and took away the credit card. She knew I was very upset. She didn't tell me her work trip was probably going to be half an holiday when I am running on fumes working myself half to death to pay for extravagances which are nice but unneeded.

I am going to the world cup next year for my birthday. I don't care if she wants to come or not. I would prefer not if I go to Mexico City as basically she was trying to sleep with my ex-friend Victor when we were in Mexico. I may have touched on this in the past. And if anything had actually happened, (can't prove it either way) then I would have divorced her. Victor lives in Mexico City., His best friend is Vanessa's business partner (I have no problem with him).

I am filled full of frustration right now. It's not like Russ. He was feeling bored and unfulfiulled I believe. I am terribly frustrated and angry. It'
s not boring but sometimes I wish it were.

That is the short version. There is way more.

Chicago: On the wrong thread.

I have alot of sympathy with lots of what you wrote above Chic. I'm sorry things are pretty shit and I hope you can sort it out with your missus. But jeez you don't help yourself with stuff like I've highlighted above. Couldn't you have just opened up your schedule for like HALF the day or something to make sure you got some time off??

Well yes, but I didn't point out that I couldn't really afford to take two days off as we are very tight on money. (we bought the house in 2023). So switching to monday as an extra day off forced me to open up Tuesday. I had 28 clients on my Birthday. Admittedly I had one client bring me a cake. Another a bottle of Bourbon and also i received a book from another too. So basically that helped my weekend.

But to turn 55 and have 28 clients (which I warned that would happen) was not optimal. I have usually only have one day off a week and that is Sunday. Having an extra day is a luxury we generally cannot afford especially when I took the wife to Montenegro for he 50th extravanganza.

I am writing between clients so I may be short on details at times, so forgive me on this one.

This is also why people probably think I might be mental (not even close to the case), I am just rushed and random with posts at times as i enjoy Talkback.

Hopefully that clears a few things up.

Chicago: Hassled.

Is now the right time to say, "Carry on, soldier!"?

Fucksake man, I don't want to be judgy but you seem really highly geared, workwise as well as financially. Can you just cut back a bit (a lot) on the incessant work that's required to make these crazy ends meet? I'm sure it's not as easy as that but you're going to make yourself ill. Or worse.

In answer to Jake…

Well the Thin Red Thin was great. Was there a carry on film with Soldier in the title?

Chicago: Up the Khyber.

The very first one was Carry On, Sargeant which is the closest, I think.

Indeed. Wouldn't the missus have been ok with "just" a MacBook and you could have taken a few days off instead of dropping £15K on a resort?

Actually no. It was a medical testing wellness centre that just happened to be at a resort. I found the experience interesting and also we were tested for disease markers and everything was comprehensive in the medical testing. Wifey’s family has a history of breast cancer so all that was fine by me. Turns out I am very healthy too but oddly very very stressed. (Who would have Thunk it??). At the time I was suffering from really bad sciatica so that probably contributed.

Anyway, it was all the stuff after that. The holiday was budgeted as it had been planned for a long time as I wanted to do something special for her 50th.

Chicago: party planner.

Love has many reasons but wtf?
I'm not sure what your upside is in this relationship.
But I'm a cunt on a message board who only hears part of it.
I suggest you curtail your spending as a bare minimum and ensure the beloved can't spend your money.
And then pay for counselling.

Anyhoo, the Wrath of Becky on Netflix is nice fascist incel slaughtering fun.

Christ. Imagine that bill! The man's already working 17 hours a day. He'd have to start work at half-past-ten at night, half an hour before he went to bed, Eat a lump of freezing cold poison, work 28 hours a day down gym, and pay the gym owner to let him work there.

Still, it's better advice than Mince and his outsiders guide to self employment.

In answer to your statement. I took away the credit card as soon as I knew it was being abused and also I have dragged her into therapy/counseling three times. The first time she only went because I was paying for it and then stopped when I suggested that she do it. The second time she had two meltdowns where the therapist had to stay with her whilst I left. The third we were Gettjng somewhere but the she (wifey) declared that she was cured and stopped going. And you wonder why I won’t let her have a handgun in the house.

Anyway… sounds like the basis of a good film.

Plan on going full on Disney with Deadpool/wolverine and the Captain America sequel if I have the time because it will be brainless but it will be fun and I probably won’t be cross whilst watching them.

Chicago: Happy to zone out